You’re not going to wear dirty socks, are you?
It’s amazing what words will set off the fireworks. What we think is mothering, a natural instinct to protect, can morph into one of the most dangerous territories for wives: the desire to control.
And you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you. ~ Genesis 3:16b NLT
In eighteen years of marriage, has my husband ever worn dirty socks? No. I know better than to nag my husband and I am constantly telling my girlfriends not to emasculate their husbands. Yet this morning there was a critical failure in the filter between my head and mouth.
This is part of the curse. We “desire our husband” as the NKJV says but he will rule over us. The New Living Translation says that the curse will be our desire to control our husbands and I am inclined to believe this.
I have two favorite verses when I counsel myself and others regarding the marriage relationship (or any other relationship for that matter). Romans 12:18 and, when that fails, Ephesians 4:32.
If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. ~ Romans 12:18
And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. ~ Ephesians 4:32
Of course, the Book of Proverbs is full of colorful illustrations of what makes for a bad wife or where the best place to reside would be should she be a nag, and I’ve included some below for your reference. The bottom line is this: do you want to be blessed like Sarah or do you want to be cursed like Michal? It’s your choice.
Further Study: I encourage you to look up the following verses from which the text is based.
- 1 Peter 3:1-6
- Ephesians 5:15-22
- Colossians 3:12-18
- Proverbs 21:9
- Proverbs 21:19
- Proverbs 25:15-16
- Proverbs 31:10-31
- Genesis 12:10-20
- 2 Samuel 6:18-23
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